What I Learned the First 6 Months of Marriage

I was going to title this blog 

"What No One told me about Marriage"

But that would be a lie.

I was told many things...

like how its the hardest part of the marriage having to learn how to live with someone, adjust to all their different ways of doing things, different family cultures, and more importantly how they spend MONEY!

People always told me money, sex and religion are the three biggest argument starters. 

Now, I don't know if Spencer and I are doing it wrong or if we are just freaking awesome at this marriage thing, but where he puts his tooth brush or how he cleans or doesn't clean is the least of my concern. We both love Jesus

And lets be real...sex is definitely not an argument starter ... ever! 

Money is our biggest argument starter, but thats just because there is never enough, not because we spend it carelessly. Both of us are pretty frugal. 

So what have I learned...

I learned that marriage may not be easy, but its not hard when its with the right person.

We have our arguments sure, but its never something that can't fixed with a smile, a kiss, and sweet gesture. When your husband is your best friend and God is number one in your marriage problems are just that, problems! Problems with solutions. Problems that will be laughed about one day. Problems that only make you stronger and closer as a couple. 

Let me tell you a story that literally happened weeks into our marriage. 

Spencer had been wanting a big screen TV for some time. 

He finally convinced me that it was a good idea and had gotten the money together.

We pick up the TV, bring it home, and set it up.

Sometime between bringing it home and setting it up, it got nicked making it unusable. 

Cracked, damaged, nada, no good. 

Its a funny story now, but at the time it was the worst thing ever. 

We had the biggest fight I seriously think we will ever have. 

Now looking back we learned a lot these past 6 months. 

We are much closer then some couples we know who have been married for years. 

I can't ever see me being ok with being apart from him.

I can't see us ever getting in a huge argument. 

I don't know, maybe it hasn't been long enough,

but I think we are just crazy like that. 

We work. 

We fit together.

God knew exactly what he was doing. 

Marriage is Great. Don't let the world fool you. 

We've been told so many times

"oh just let the first marriage get over quickly so you can get to your second one!" 

"You just got married? I'm sorry!" 

or my favorite...

"Is your wife crazy?"

These people obviously never realized the problem is more than surface deep. 

Its all about the heart. 

You can not just have love for one another, 

you have to have love for the One and Only. 

Jesus Christ. 

But what I've learned most is...

Marriage is day to day, hour to hour. 

You have to put in what you expect to get in return.

He has to constantly be your sweetheart (even when he does something wrong)

and as much as I hate to admit it, you have to constantly be a wife. 

I know we live in an equal world, but being a biblical wife is so important in keeping a marriage strong. 

It definitely hasn't been easy. We've had our ups and downs, but overall this first 6 months has been amazing. I wouldn't change a thing....well except for maybe the cracked TV!